Understanding Men

UNDERSTANDING MENBefore You Judge Him, Understand Him.What if the man you think you understand isn't the man you actually understand?Women spend years dating, loving, arguing with, marrying, divorcing, raising families with, and trying to understand men but many of the misunderstandings between men and women come from one simple problem: They aren't looking at each other from the same perspective.In Understanding Men, Fredrick Scott Jr. takes an unapologetically male perspective on the behaviors, motivations, desires, frustrations, standards, and struggles that often leave women asking, "Why does he do that?"This book doesn't tell women that every man is good.It doesn't excuse cheating, dishonesty, manipulation, abuse, irresponsibility, or bad character.And it isn't written to tell women what they want to hear.Instead, it challenges women to understand the man before judging him.Why does a man sometimes need space during an argument? Why can sexual attraction exist without relationship intentions? Why can a man want a woman without seeing her as his wife? Why can a man's past relationships affect how he loves the next woman? Why do some men become guarded after heartbreak? Why can ambition make a successful man's communication look different? Why does public disrespect affect some men so deeply? What happens when a man loses everything and has to rebuild? And what does a man actually seek when he enters a relationship?Fredrick Scott Jr. explores these questions through a series of candid discussions about sex, attraction, communication, peace, respect, ambition, failure, discipline, love, loyalty, spirituality, responsibility, and human nature.But this book isn't about blaming women for men's behavior.Men have responsibility too.A disciplined man controls his impulses. A responsible man takes accountability. A good man communicates. A loving man protects what he values.Understanding a man's nature does not excuse his choices.It gives you a clearer view of them.Understanding Men is for the reasonable woman-the woman willing to listen before judging, examine her own choices, challenge her assumptions, and recognize that her personal experiences with men are not the entire male population.Because understanding isn't agreement.You can understand a man and still disagree with him.You can understand him and still walk away.You can understand him and still demand better.But before you decide that you know the man standing in front of you, ask yourself one question: Have you actually taken the time to understand him?Men need women. Women need men.Maybe it's time we started understanding each other.