The Self You Buried: Finding Who Are Beneath Everyone Else's Expectations

Most of us are living a life assembled for an audience.The warmth we perform with. The opinions we swallow. The version of ourselves we send into every room is so practised, so automatic, that we have forgotten there was ever another version.The Self You Buried is about the gap between who you show the world and who you actually are.Drawing on psychology, philosophy, and the stories of real people who found their way back to themselves, R. Khan offers not a self-help programme but something rarer - an honest account of what it actually costs to keep performing and what becomes possible when you finally stop.This book is for you if you have ever: - Driven home from a perfectly pleasant evening and wondered who exactly showed up to it- Said yes when everything inside you said no- Built a life that looks right from the outside and feels slightly wrong from the inside- Performed warmth, agreement, or enthusiasm you did not actually feel- Forgotten, somewhere along the way, what you actually want"The self you are looking for is not an idealised future version of you. It is the current version without the management."If you have ever felt like a stranger in your own life, this book was written for you.Readers of Oliver Burkeman, Alain de Botton, and Brené Brown will recognise a new essential voice.

Pages: 215, Paperback, Independently published