The Questions Before Ring: Christian Premarital Book Gift For Dating Couples: 40 Conversations Couples Getting Serious

You are not engaged yet, and that is exactly the problem. Somewhere in the last few months this stopped being casual. Your mother has started asking questions with a particular tone. His sister said something about next summer. You have both begun saying "we" about things that are a year away, and neither of you has pointed it out. So you did what everybody does. You looked for a premarital book. And every single one of them is written for couples who are already engaged, or for couples sitting across from a counselor who will not take an appointment until there is a ring. One real buyer put it better than any of them: it is too soon to meet with a counselor, but it is not too soon to read a book. This is that book. Forty conversations, one per page. What you each earn and what you each owe. Whose house at the holidays. Which parent is going to be difficult and why. What you were each taught about sex. What you have not told them yet. The marriage you grew up watching, and how much of it you are about to repeat without meaning to. Each one takes an evening. You read the page out loud, you answer four questions, and at the bottom there is one line that no other book in this category has: what it actually means if this conversation goes badly, and what to do with that. There is no wedding planning in here. Nothing about a ring, nothing about a proposal, nothing about a venue. You are not planning anything yet. You are finding out what you are walking into. Some of these will be easy. Two or three of them will not be, and those are the ones you bought this for. Better to know now, while knowing is still easy.