Sexual Intelligence

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Enjoyable sex: It's not about technique or a perfect body or being hopelessly, passionately in love. It's about sexual intelligence. In this book, the author shows how to stop observing ourselves during sex, ending our obsession with sexual performance and sexual normality. In Sexual Intelligence, Dr. Marty Klein shows how our ideas about sex—and ourselves—are more important than a perfect body or exotic techniques. With many engaging examples from his thirty-year private practice, Marty provides a robust, practical perspective that makes it impossible for people to fail at sex—because they don't aim for success. Enjoyable sex: It's not about technique or a perfect body or being hopelessly, passionately in love. It's about sexual intelligence. In his three decades of working with couples and individuals as a sex therapist and marriage counselor, Dr. Marty Klein has continuously seen that although most people say what they want from sex is pleasure and closeness, that's not what they focus on during sex. Instead, we're preoccupied with how we look, what our partner is thinking, how we're performing, and whether we're normal. We do more thinking, worrying, and judging than experiencing. Sex like that can't thrill us, can't create intimacy, and can't, well, feel sexy. In "Sexual Intelligence", Klein shows how to stop observing ourselves during sex, ending our obsession with sexual performance and sexual normality. "I don't help people 'function' better during sex," he says. "I teach people how to relax and enjoy sex with the body they have, the partner they have, in the situation they have." Now that's something we all want: fulfilling, exciting sex at every stage of our lives. In "Sexual Intelligence", Klein challenges our understanding of sex, love, intimacy, romance, and satisfaction. After all, sex isn't just an activity. Change the way you think about sex, and you can change your sex life-forever.

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What do most people say they want from sex? After thirty years of working with couples, Dr. Marty Klein knows: Some combination of pleasure and closeness. But unfortunately, that's not what people think about during sex. Instead they worry about how they look, what their partner is thinking, what move they should attempt next. This constant self-monitoring takes all of the fun and closeness out of sex, and makes us feel like it is one more area where we have to perform. No wonder so many people stop doing it! In Sexual Intelligence , Dr. Klein teaches us how to stop aiming for success and being normal and instead learn to care about two things: how does it feel, and does my partner enjoy this with me? It's a concept of sex that makes it impossible for people to fail, because we don't aim for success. In fact, he helps us realize that our desire to be normal is what keeps us from being our authentic sexual selves. In a groundbreaking exploration of the sexual mind, Dr. Klein explores the three components of Sexual Intelligence: The brain - information and knowledge; The heart - emotional skills; and, The body - body awareness and comfort. Sexual Intelligence is the set of internal resources that allows you to relax, be present, communicate, respond to stimulation, and create physical and emotional connection with a partner. When you can do that, you'll have enjoyable sexual experiences regardless of what your body does, or doesn't, do. Rather than trying to fix any problems you may have with sex, by taking a step back and realizing all the baggage we bring into sex, we can learn to approach this area in our lives with awareness, openness, and renewed optimism.

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Pages: 256, Edition: Geïllustreerd, Paperback, HarperOne