Monster & The Daughter Who Loved Her

MONSTER & THE DAUGHTER WHO LOVED HER: a true story by Linda Ford AyresThis book is about being raised by a cunning, mentally ill mother and a father in denial, andmy road from hate and distrust to understanding, sympathy, love, and ultimately unexpectedforgiveness. Written with voices alternating between my own voice and my mother's voice, hermental illness becomes more fascinating than terrifying and mystifying. Strangely, I was herconfidant. I had access to her thoughts, plans, deeds, and disturbed reasoning behind whatusually would be seen from a moral point of view only as evil.My story begins with my first memory...my mother stomping my turtle with her foot untilshe killed it. My mother's voice begins with her belief that she died in childbirth which resultedin her trip to heaven and back, the Virgin Mary having given me to her to raise on earth. Ibrought my mother the only joy she had ever known until I went to school where her sadismworsened and escalated to her attempt at murdering me in my sleep at age eighteen as I wasabout to graduate from nursing school.Leaving Ray, the boy I had fallen in love with, I escaped to San Francisco and studiedcreative writing, supporting myself as a nurse. I "dropped" acid, ending my faith in the onlysolace I had left, the Virgin Mary. Falsely accused of killing a patient, my depression deepened,landing me in a locked-down psychiatric ward and released to psychotherapy. "I wanted to savelives like Dr. Bauer had saved mine." I returned to graduate school and became a successfulpsychotherapist in New York City for many years.I married, adopted my son, and divorced when he was three. I eventually did marry Ray,the boy I deserted forty-nine years before, who had retired as a Marine three-star general.In the end, my mother and I made our peace. "Just like love, and maybe even because of it,forgiveness mysteriously just happened."