Binoculars and A Sandwich: Stop Chasing Crumbs Start Choosing Yourself

Binoculars and A Sandwich. By Birdie Blackwell. Have you ever called confusion "chemistry," crumbs "potential," or a man's silence "probably trauma"?Welcome to Binoculars and a Sandwich, the sassy survival guide for smart women who know better, but still have feelings.Birdie Blackwell serves up sharp humor, brutal honesty, and a much-needed intervention for every woman who has ever stalked his energy, decoded mixed signals, waited in emotional limbo, or accepted crumbs while pretending she was spiritually evolved.With laugh-out-loud truth and a little lipstick-stained side-eye, this book helps women stop chasing clarity from people who keep them confused. It is for the woman who is tired of auditioning for love, tired of living in the waiting room, and ready to come back to herself. We are going to laugh at the binoculars. We are going to laugh at the bushes. We are going to laugh at the deli meat. We are going to laugh at the text analysis, the fake errands, the group chat investigations, the spiritual loopholes, the long paragraphs, the bare minimum parade, the emotional Airbnb, and the part of us that has absolutely considered whether a sandwich might have intuitive wisdom.But we are not laughing at your pain. Your pain is real. Your longing is real. Your hope is real. Your intuition may be real too. The problem is not that you felt something. The problem is when you gave that feeling more authority than your own peace. The problem is when you stayed loyal to potential while betraying your present. The problem is when you kept trying to be chosen by someone who had not even chosen clarity.This book is not a rulebook for becoming cold. We are not becoming bitter little gargoyles perched on the roof of disappointment, hissing at men in cargo shorts. We are not shutting down our hearts. We are not pretending we do not care. We are not becoming those women who say, "I'm unbothered," while chewing through drywall in private. No. We are becoming honest.Honest enough to say, "I feel something here, but I also need behavior." "I care, but I will not chase." "I can be intuitive without investigating." "I can have compassion without becoming a rehabilitation center." "I can love someone and still not live inside their confusion." "I can want him and still want myself more." That is the work.And yes, it is work. Annoying work. Unsexy work. The kind of work where you have to drink water, stop checking, not send the paragraph, and ask yourself why one vague text made your nervous system put on a reflective vest. But it is holy work. Because every time you stop monitoring him and return to yourself, something changes. Every time you read the behavior instead of worshiping the vibe, something changes. Every time you stop feeding a fantasy before you feed yourself, something changes. Every time you put down the binoculars, your life gets a little louder.

Pages: 170, Paperback, Independently published