Attachment Theory for Consensual Nonmonogamy: Building Polysecure Across Multiple Relationships

This book shows you how to build genuine, lasting attachment security across multiple romantic relationships - using the same neuroscience that explains why your emotions keep overriding your values. You believe in nonmonogamy. You have done the reading, had the conversations, built the agreements. And yet something keeps happening that your frameworks cannot fully explain. Your partner mentions their other partner in a particular tone and your chest tightens. You are home alone during an overnight and the narrative machine starts running. You perform compersion you do not quite feel while something quieter and more urgent goes unaddressed. This is not a failure of commitment. It is your attachment system doing exactly what it was built to do - and nobody has given it the attention it deserves. Most CNM resources treat attachment as a problem to overcome. This book treats it as a signal to understand.